Friday, October 6, 2017

What Biblical Womanhood is Really About

I remember listening to a sermon when the pastor decided to preach on biblical womanhood. He titled his sermon, "How to be a Biblical Woman." Curious about what he'd say I listened inventively. He instantly began discussing how to be a great wife and mother.

His sermon was well tailored, and filled with biblical truth. He offered women the ins and the outs on how to make their husbands happy. Explained the perfect biblical stories to tell to their children. And he even commented on the benefits of keeping a clean home. There was just one problem-- there was nothing said for me as a single girl. He made biblical womanhood seem as if it were husband-centered and home-centered rather than Christ-centered.

I remember going home that day thinking to myself, "I can't wait until I get married so I can embrace biblical womanhood." And that right there, was the worst thought my head had ever concocted. Wait until I get married until I can embrace biblical womanhood?

So often, teachings on biblical womanhood go straight to our roles as wives and mothers. And the common thought is if you haven't yet achieved "married status" then you'd better be learning the tricks of the trade, until you can afford premium membership into the married women's club.

Being a wife and mother are all great and high callings. Callings I believe we should prepare for and speak highly of. However, married or single, children or no children, our identity cannot be placed in anything other than Christ.

Where the Conversation Should Always Begin

When Jesus first met Peter, he uttered his famous words, "Follow me, and I will make you fishers of of men." (Matthew 4:19) This is where I believe every conversation on biblical womanhood should begin, in our roles as disciples.

In life, the seasons change, and our roles change with them. But the one thing that will always be constant is the fact that we are disciples.

You may be a stay-at-home mother who disciples her children. Or you may be a single girl who travels the world telling the gospel to all who'll listen.

No matter where you are in your life, you can embrace biblical womanhood. God's word offers the perfect road map on how to best navigate our role as disciples in the various seasons of life. But we must recognize these different seasons as what they truly are, different opportunities for discipleship.

Otherwise, we'll have a plethora of girls sitting around waiting for marriage as if there is nothing to be done as a single girl. Or the opposite extreme-- a bunch of married women who can't see their roles as wives and mothers as invaluable modes of discipleship.

Biblical Womanhood is Not for the Weak

If biblical womanhood is truly about discipleship, than this is no job for the weak. In fact it really does take a brave girl to go against the culture and make decisions that will preserve her role as a disciple.

Jesus makes this same plea in Luke 10:38-42 when he commended Mary for sitting at his feet before anything else. Mary took the brave road and did what no other women would have done. Jesus praised her for her well adjusted priorities. He wasn't belittling homemaking but simply pointing out that housework in and of itself means nothing is it's not done from a Christ-centered, discipleship perspective. In a time where women placed much of their identities in their housework, Mary stood against the flow and found her identity in Christ.

This is what biblical womanhood is all about. Being brave. Standing strong for God. Stewarding our seasons well. Being disciples.

Lets chat!
What misconceptions have you had about biblical womanhood?


  1. Love this! So true

  2. I love your blog! I have learned so much, and thanks for your book lists. I went through and read most of your posts. Very insightful. Please keep them coming! Thanks:)