Friday, November 17, 2017

Living Together Before Marriage: 3 Reasons Not To

"Cohabitation has become so common that it's almost odd not to test drive a partner before marriage." wrote a popular online article. Today, this trend has become the popular view towards guy-girl relationships. Like gloves, men and women are encouraged to "try each other on."

The census reports a 72 percent increase in the number of cohabiting couples since 1990. In other words, this bizarre new "step" towards marriage is becoming more and more "normal." Instead of going through the process towards a regular marriage, many couples today have chosen to play house, play marriage, and even play family.

As Christians, what should our thoughts on this subject be? I mean, the bible doesn't give us direct restrictions not to live together before marriage. But does that make it okay with God?

Despite the bibles silence on the topic, scripture still leads us to believe that cohabiting for the unmarried Christian couple is wrong. Here are three reasons why:

1. We're told to flee from sexual temptation, not cohabit with it.

Let's be honest, when a guy and a girl develop strong, intimate emotions for one another, the desire to express those emotions physically become very intense.

As Christian couples we have to create boundaries to protect our bodies from sexual sin. Living together before marriage is the exact opposite from creating healthy boundaries.

The bible tell us to flee temptation (1 Corinthian 6:18). When we cohabit before marriage we place ourselves right on the fringe of it.

2. Divorce rates are higher for couples who cohabit before marriage.

Researchers have found that couples who have lived together before marriage saw a 33 percent higher divorce rate than couples that did not.

As Christians who understand the value of the marriage covenant, we should be doing all that we can to create healthy, lasting marriages. Living together before marriage does the exact opposite.

3. Premarital cohabitation undermines God's design for the marriage covenant. 

Genesis 2:24 gives us a very specific formula for forming the marriage covenant. It says, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." 

When couples live together before marriage, they undermine this formula.

As Christians, we can't look to what is culturally popular or even culturally acceptable. We don't share the same values as the world. Cohabitation may be the new norm of our day, but it's certainly not normal in God's eyes.

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