Tuesday, February 13, 2018

3 Truths For Resisting Sexual Temptation This Valentine's Day

Imagine being a committed virgin for twenty-one years, then to suddenly give into sexual sin on a Valentine’s Day night. 

For Rebecca this scenerio is all to familiar.

After being single for twenty-one years, Rebecca was going spend her very first Valentine’s Day with a boyfriend. She and her boyfriend had been dating for six months and were enjoying getting to know each other.

As Valentine’s Day rolled in, Rebecca’s boyfriend had prepared a super romantic evening. Their emotions got stirred, and sexual desire got the best of them.

Valentine’s Day can be tricky for any dating couple. Not yet married, yet not completely single. 

You have feelings for this guy, but haven’t been given the marital green light to express those feelings physically. And that can be tough. Especially on a day like Valentine’s Day.

So how can Christian girls make sure the romance of Valentine’s Day doesn’t lead to a sexual disaster? 

I’ve come up with a few truths that every dating girl should keep in mind this Valentine’s Day:

1. God’s design for sex is good.

Sex was created between one man and one woman in the context of marriage. (Genesis 2:24) and God considers sex to be a good thing when used in the proper context.

In the Song of Solomon, we see a fascinating picture of Solomon and his bride enjoying marital sex when God enters into the room and gives his hearty consent. He tells them to Eat, friends, drink, and be drunk with love!” (Song of Solomon 5:1)

God was pleased with this married couple enjoying his gift of sex because His design is good.

2. God placed boundaries around sex to preserve its goodness.

Because God has a good plan for sex, He has laid out boundaries to protect it. The same God that was cheering on Solomon and his bride is the same God that wants you to experience a mind-blowing sexual experience.

That’s why he’s dead set on preserving sexual intimacy for marriage.

If you’re in a dating relationship, these boundaries may seem difficult in the midst of all the romance and flowers. But, truly these boundaries are a gift to preserve yet another gift.

3. Sex before marriage is not an expression of love.

Valentine’s Day is a day all about love. One of the best ways a dating couple can express love for one another is by waiting.

Having sex before marriage does not express love, but instead selfishness and lust. 

As Valentine’s Day emotions begin to stir, remember that you get to express your love through patience and respect.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be the day that you throw purity in the back seat. Sexual temptation doesn’t have to get the best of you. 

I challenge you to take purity seriously this Valentine’s Day and make decisions that are honoring to God. Purity won’t just fall on your lap. You will have to take extra precautions to avoid sticky situations.

If you don’t already have boundaries in place in your relationship, now would be a great time to form some. Don’t be afraid to bring up the topic of boundaries to your boyfriend. A truly Christ-centered guy isn’t afraid of boundaries. Instead, he enjoys the freedoms they bring.

Enjoy your Valentine’s Day!

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